Moxie's Diaries!

This is just one of those topics I didn’t think deeply about; just some random thoughts on a random rainy cold night, put into writing! You ever scrolled through social media, and saw one of those posts that say “A woman is 'supposed to'….”? Oh my! How much I detest stuff like that.

Sighs...  We live in a generation where people feel like, or think that if you aren't posting nor sharing almost every moment of your life on social media, then nothing good is happening to you; and you're sad. I’ll be sharing this based on my personal experience; but let me explain what it means to live a private life. It means not sharing every personal detail about your life publicly. However, privacy is not the same as secrecy because people often confuse the two. Also, living a private life doesn't mean that you shouldn’t ask for help when you're in dire need of it. As an introvert, I keep most personal stuff to myself; but I used to trust easily until I learned the hard way. I learned that not everyone means well for you; and the scary part of it is that you may never know.  Photo Credit: Deposit photos

Hi, thank you for stopping by. So few days ago, I did some thinking, and reflected on my behavior. I realized that it's been a couple of things I used to do that I don't do anymore. To me, it was growth, and I was truly proud of it, and thought to share because you may find them helpful! Here are 10 things I’ve stopped doing:

Sometimes we don’t even know we tell ourselves these lies. They’re often disguised as beliefs which I’ve come to understand that not all beliefs are facts; and these ones I’m about to share with you are just typical examples of lies we often tell ourselves!.. sorry. Image credit : Fast forward accounting Since we barely discuss money with friends, acquaintances, or family, we often find ourselves dwelling on these beliefs for a long time until we’re out of money, and maybe realize how much we’ve fxxked up.

Hi guys, these are some of the steps I took towards having a stronger hold of my emotions; and I hope you find it helpful! 1. Trust the timing of your life, not someone else’s. 2. Break free from the rules you place on yourself . “Should“, “Shouldn’t“, “I better do”. Strive to be true to yourself instead. Image credit : Health shot

I read a true life of how a man set his wife ab.laze because he was an.gry she didn’t prepare food for him. It’s not just that she didn’t make his food, but she was literally washing his clothes at the moment he wanted food! In a typical African home, cooking is solely a woman’s responsibility hence a man doesn’t bother learning how to cook because he’s been taught that he’ll grow up someday, get married, and have his wife prepare every of his meals when he’s hungry! Image credit : Pixabay

I'm someone who believes that you either win or you learn. I do not like to use the word failure ; but for a better understanding of this post, I'll be doing that.  Photo credit : The failure syndrome I know we often say life is unfair which is true; but sometimes we are the architect of our problems because of how we use our time, our mindsets, and our beliefs! Many people have so many definitions of success, and it's not always monetary; but failure's definition is more like a one size fits all clothing - which is the inability to succeed at something. 

One thing about me is that I will always find a way to be happy - regardless of what I'm going through! You will barely hear me complain about anything; and this has often given people the impression that I don't have problems. Oh well. ..

I like to call myself a free spirit, and for the most part of my life, I think I've always done things my own way, and this is because I grew up with so much love, and a certain amount of freedom - good freedom, I'll say! Unlike typical African homes where you're forbidden to get into relationships - hence you have to hide to do what you want, or even sneak around, it wasn't same with me. My first relationship ever, happened in the university, and my mum knew about it, and even got to know him. I felt a sense of safety with that - like this person can't just play me because my mum knew about him. I may have been right in my thoughts, or wrong. Image credit : All pro dad My mum taught me what was wrong, and what was right, and gave me the liberty to choose, and of course, I chose the good life - especially because there were so many expectations that I'll grow up being a disgrace to her since she let me do what I wanted. I was determined not to prove people with ...

As someone who doesn't play with her self-respect, I figured I should share this with y'all because I feel like one of the worst things that can happen to anybody, is losing your self-respect. So here are ways you can stop that from happening: 1. STOP PICKING ON PEOPLE WHO DIDN’T COME FOR YOU   If you always coming for people, with time they’ll get used to it, and you become irrelevant to them! 2. STOP UNNECESSARY BEGGING  The first time I wrote this, I said “stop begging”, but then I thought about it, and realized we all need each other. There are times we may need urgent help, and we won’t have a choice but to beg. That’s fine, but don’t beg too much, and don’t always beg. If you have to beg, let it be your last option. Note that asking and begging aren’t the same thing. Fact is that, not all humans think right. Most people will take advantage of you begging—they’ll think they’re superior to you, use you to their advantage, and may not even help you at the end of the d...

This is going to be a very interesting read, so grab your popcorn and a drink, and enjoy. This is supposed to be a sequel to my other article 11 Kinds Of Women Every Man Meets In His Lifetime , but I decided to make it personal, and see if I'll enjoy reading it. If I do, then I'll publish it. Well since you're reading it, it means I loved it, and I hope you will too!  There are different types of men with different personality traits which is exactly why I don’t share in “all men are the same”. All women aren’t the same either, but we could have gender similarities respectively.

You ever met an introvert you liked? Dated one? Married one? Friends with one? It looks, or looked like they’re tough or a hard nut to crack, right? Sometimes it might even seem like your introvert partner isn’t all that interested in you. However, this is far from the truth. It is not easy for introverts to fall in love, and it’s even more difficult for them to show that they care about you. They are not the most expressive humans; but when they like you or love you, they’ll try! Introverts tread cautiously when it comes to letting people into their lives, especially when it comes to giving their hearts away. But once they are sure of their feelings and the person, they can surprise you by being extremely affectionate and romantic!

I’ve thought about this for quite some time now. In as much as we have a not-so-good government, but we literally cannot keep blaming them for everything!  Lagos is one of the most populated cities in the world, and since it's got good opportunities for businesses, it's no doubt why many people chose to move to Lagos. Besides the hectic traffic, flood is another disadvantage of living in Lagos.