Hi guys, I'll be explaining this with a short story.
Few months ago, I did something unusual. One day, I woke up being annoyed with how I couldn't stay disciplined with my dieting, and I decided not to eat for 3 days. A complete 72 hours without any kind of food, except water. I wanted to test my willpower!
This was the first time I decided to do such a thing. First day, it was okay. I was hungry but not too hungry. Second day, I had trouble sleeping because of how hungry I was, but I managed to get through it. Third day, I wanted to eat anything! I mean anything!! Everything looked edible to me - including my pillow, lol! But what shocked me the most was that I was also craving foods that I supposedly ha.te. Foods that I couldn’t stand the smell of, nor the taste of were suddenly what I was craving immensely. I was surprised!
It was expected that my survival instincts would kick in, and I would want to eat anything; but I expected to crave food that I already love, not food that I absolutely h.ate!
This made me realize that I didn’t actually h.ate these foods because I categorically h.ate them. I just had better options. My mind knows that I have other options; so I ha.ted it compared to other foods that I’d rather eat.
Now using this story to explain why love fades, we can all see that divorce rates are increasing, and you can probably guess why! We’re now not limited to our own town, city, or country. With the power of social media, we have access to the most beautiful women, and men. With a quick search, you can find the most successful people in the world.
Suddenly, you have access to people who are more beautiful and successful than your partner (for those who do comparisons because I don't). Suddenly you have options, and when you have options, you get confused.
I believe this is the most contributing factor for love fading nowadays. When your partner makes a mistake, you don’t think “we need to work on this” rather you think “that’s one more reason I could leave you for someone better”. Now who told you that other person is better? Listen, I'd never support toxicity, cheating, DV, and every bad stuff that no one has to go through! If this is your situation, please leave!
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Few months ago, I did something unusual. One day, I woke up being annoyed with how I couldn't stay disciplined with my dieting, and I decided not to eat for 3 days. A complete 72 hours without any kind of food, except water. I wanted to test my willpower!
This was the first time I decided to do such a thing. First day, it was okay. I was hungry but not too hungry. Second day, I had trouble sleeping because of how hungry I was, but I managed to get through it. Third day, I wanted to eat anything! I mean anything!! Everything looked edible to me - including my pillow, lol! But what shocked me the most was that I was also craving foods that I supposedly ha.te. Foods that I couldn’t stand the smell of, nor the taste of were suddenly what I was craving immensely. I was surprised!
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It was expected that my survival instincts would kick in, and I would want to eat anything; but I expected to crave food that I already love, not food that I absolutely h.ate!
This made me realize that I didn’t actually h.ate these foods because I categorically h.ate them. I just had better options. My mind knows that I have other options; so I ha.ted it compared to other foods that I’d rather eat.
Now using this story to explain why love fades, we can all see that divorce rates are increasing, and you can probably guess why! We’re now not limited to our own town, city, or country. With the power of social media, we have access to the most beautiful women, and men. With a quick search, you can find the most successful people in the world.
Suddenly, you have access to people who are more beautiful and successful than your partner (for those who do comparisons because I don't). Suddenly you have options, and when you have options, you get confused.
Think of a burger shop which only has one or two types of burgers, and another which has a lot. It’s always easier to dine in the one with more options because you want to try as much as you can, or it's the excitement of trying something new!
I believe this is the most contributing factor for love fading nowadays. When your partner makes a mistake, you don’t think “we need to work on this” rather you think “that’s one more reason I could leave you for someone better”. Now who told you that other person is better? Listen, I'd never support toxicity, cheating, DV, and every bad stuff that no one has to go through! If this is your situation, please leave!
As I was writing, once our mind knows that there are options, we get confused; and once we get confused, we confuse ordinary conflicts with reasons to break up. We don’t put effort into relationships as much as our parents and grandparents did! I believe it was because in their mind they didn’t have many options rather than work things out, and they did (most of them).
Of course, there are other reasons for love to fade like being with someone for the wrong reasons, or for benefits, taking them for granted, or not caring enough; but I believe this is the biggest one. And a close second would be disrespect.
Of course, there are other reasons for love to fade like being with someone for the wrong reasons, or for benefits, taking them for granted, or not caring enough; but I believe this is the biggest one. And a close second would be disrespect.
Ps, I'd like to say that it's important to figure out why you want to be with someone before being with them! When you're genuinely attracted to a person, and the feeling is mutual, both of you will make efforts to keep the flame of your love burning - as long as you're both true to each other 😊!
Thank you for reading, guys! Xo, Moxie..
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