How My Life Is Changing...

It’s the wee hours of the 11th of June; I had just finished my workouts, and heading to the shower — thinking about how I have to make sure I read a page or two of the book I’m currently reading before I sleep — and then it struck me, “Moxie you’re changing”. At that moment, I felt very proud of myself, so while I was in the shower, I started thinking about it.

I think I’ve healed a lot of things within myself. You see, sometimes we don’t even realize we need healing. When you hear words like therapy or healing, you assume they’re only for people with obvious issues, but that’s not necessarily true.

As you become more self-aware and emotionally intelligent, you begin to realize that many of your behaviors stem from something deeper — your upbringing, the people you grew up around, the people you surround yourself with now, and the things you’ve become accustomed to; then you can choose to make intentional changes.

Here are some of the changes I’ve noticed in myself:

1. I no longer feel the need to prove my point

I used to want to prove my point, especially when I believed I was right. Now, I simply reply with “OK” or say nothing at all, particularly when I feel that someone is being disrespectful, trying to start an argument, or speaking to me in a condescending manner. 

When you go low, I don’t go lower, I simply exit the circus.

You see, I rarely ignore people. In fact, I find it distasteful when others do it. However, I’ve learned to do so when someone repeatedly crosses the line into disrespect.

I cannot tell you how much peace I’ve found since becoming this way. It has also made me stronger and more grounded.

2. I’ve learned to let people be who they are

I’ve stopped placing my happiness and self-worth in anyone else’s hands. Before, I h@ted it when people didn’t respond to my messages. I would double-text them as a reminder that they hadn’t replied. Now, when I notice that delayed responses have become a pattern, I simply dust my shoes and take my leave. And believe me when I say that I probably won’t text them again unless it’s absolutely necessary. If they eventually decide to reply, I also have the right to choose whether I respond or not.

Does that sound petty? Maybe. But to me, it sounds peaceful! 

I think some people enjoy being chased because it boosts their ego. In my experience, genuinely busy people often find a way to respond, even if it’s brief. It’s usually those with plenty of time on their hands who try hardest to appear busy—or who use silence to make others question their worth. And what’s interesting is that when these same people need something from you, they suddenly have no problem texting repeatedly or calling multiple times, expecting an immediate response.

Of course, this is simply my personal observation.


3. I have a better memory

It’s not like my memory was ever poor; but it’s just now I do remember things way more than I do before. I can’t tell whether it’s because I’ve made reading a daily habit; even if it’s just a page or two, or if it's because of the omega-3 supplements I take. To be honest, I haven’t even replaced my last bottle since I finished it two months ago, so perhaps it’s the reading?

Ps, what I’m more proud of here is me reading every night before bed.

These are just a few of the small ways my life has changed — and continues to change. I can’t fully explain how much peace I have now, but I know this: life feels lighter when you stop trying to control people, stop seeking validation from others, and start investing in yourself instead. This is our gentle reminder for the week.

Tell me your favorite about this in the comments.

Xo, Moxie!

Have you read The Morning Routine That Tripled My Productivity