How My Life Is Changing...

It’s the wee hours of the 11th of June; I had just finished my workout and headed to the shower — thinking about how I have to make sure I read a page or two of the book I’m currently reading before I sleep — and then it struck me, “Moxie, you’re changing.” At that moment, I felt very proud of myself, so while I was in the shower, I started thinking about it.

I think I’ve healed a lot of things within myself. Sometimes we don’t even realize we need healing. When you hear words like therapy or healing, you assume they’re only for people with obvious issues, but that’s not necessarily true.

The more you understand yourself, the more you begin to question why you behave the way you do. Sometimes, you realise that certain habits and reactions have a lot to do with how you were raised, the people you grew up around, the company you keep, or simply the things you’ve become so used to that you hardly question them anymore.


Here are some of the changes I’ve noticed in myself:


1. I no longer feel the need to prove my point

I used to want to prove my point, especially when I believed I was right. Now, I reply with “OK” or say nothing at all, especially when I feel someone is being disrespectful, trying to start an argument, or speaking to me condescendingly.

When you go low, I don’t go lower; I exit the circus.

You see, I rarely ignore people. In fact, I find it distasteful when others do it. However, I’ve learned to do so when someone crosses the line into disrespect.

I cannot tell you how much peace I’ve found since becoming this way. It has also made me stronger and more grounded.



2. I’ve learned to let people be who they are

I’ve stopped letting people’s behavior decide my mood. Before, I h@ted it when people didn’t respond to my messages. I would double-text them to remind them they hadn’t replied. Now, when I notice delayed responses have become a pattern, I dust off my shoes and leave. And believe me when I say that I probably won’t text them again unless it’s necessary. If they eventually decide to reply, I also get to choose whether to respond. Does that sound petty? Maybe. But to me, it sounds peaceful! 

I think some people enjoy being chased because it boosts their ego.

In my experience, genuinely busy people often find a way to respond, even if it’s brief. It’s usually those with plenty of time on their hands who try hard to appear busy — or who use silence to make others question their worth. And what's funny is that when these same people need something from you, they suddenly have no problem texting repeatedly or calling multiple times, expecting an immediate response.

Of course, this is my personal observation.


3. I have a better memory

It’s not like my memory was ever poor, but I remember things way more now than I did before. That kinda sounded cocky, but I promise I wasn’t even trying to be! I can’t tell whether it’s because I’ve made reading a part of my daily activities, or because of the omega-3 supplements I take. I haven’t even replaced the last bottle since I finished it two months ago, so perhaps it’s the reading?

Ps, what I’m more proud of here is me reading every night before bed.

These are just a few of the changes I’ve noticed in myself lately, and I know there are still more to come. My life has become more peaceful, and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I no longer feel the need to control what people do, or seek their approval. I’ve become more concerned with myself, my happiness, and the kind of life I want to live. This is our gentle reminder for the week.


Tell me your favorite part about this in the comments.

Xo, Moxie!


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